Why Finding Your True Soulmate Is So Hard

We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love — Dr. Seuss

Are soul mates real and if so what are the soulmate signs? And if so what dating tips are there for finding your true love? 

Being in love feels so amazing — like you can conquer the world! All that extra dopamine and adrenaline creates an incredible high. All the passageways to the exclusive “Club Cloud Nine” open right up! 

It also explains why breakups crash and burn. Coming off any high feels miserable. Love releases the same endorphins that addictions do. Go figure!

For the lucky ones who have found their life-long high, congrats! You are the Disney outcome lonely hearts yearn for! As for the rest of us?Still searching for love, being patient and staying positive gets tiresome. After all, kissing frogs gets old!

More than half of American adults are single. So if you’re wondering where in the world your soulmate has been hiding out, you’re not alone. When it comes to finding true love, will life permit destiny to do the job or do us singletons need to be more actively involved? There is a perfect man or woman out there for everyone? Right?

Most MetroSpirituals believe that every one has a twin flame, a.k.a the yin to your yang. It’s believed that after our souls were created they split into two equal halves. Each one would go out into the universe and try to evolve. Incarnating into physical form and learning life lessons has always been a popular way for our souls to grow and mature.

Then, after each half is fully evolved, they’ll hook up again and merge into the perfect embodiment of true love. They will live happily-ever-after for all of eternity, united as one, together forever. Now that’s romantic!

 However, most people do not incarnate at the same time as their “other half” does. It happens, but rarely. They often act as a spirit guide to help out their other half living here on earth. It makes sense if you think about it. Wouldn’t you want someone like you, who you can totally trust and who is currently “higher up” helping you out? Don’t worry about finding your twin flame; you are forever bonded. If your twin flame is not physically with you, it’s okay because many of your soulmates are.
A soulmate is someone with whom you have lived many other lives with and have karmic ties to. A soulmate can be a good friend, a co-worker, lover or life partner. This person will bring out your best qualities, not your worst. A soulmate will make you feel secure, not insecure.

You can tell them your deepest darkest secrets and know they are safe. Chances are you’ll feel like you have known each other forever. And since we have multiple soulmates the odds of finding one who can be your best friend, lover and partner are forever in your favor.

So how do the singletons go about finding an appropriate romantic soulmate? I did some research and according to the professionals, here are the top eight ways:

Bars are good for hook-ups, not lifelong relationships. Less than 10% of people met their mate at a bar. Sorry!

Don’t rule out your playmates. Around 40% of couples were friends first. According to a published study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships out of Purdue University, couples that are also best friends have a happier relationship and are less likely to break up. Even the sex is better.

You’re never too old to find true love. The odds actually go up with age! Less than 5% of marriages end when the people meet after the age of 35.

It’s all in the kiss. Those who kiss passionately have a higher rate of staying together. So pucker up!

Let your friends set you up on dates! Around 40% of people met their match through a mutual friend.

Opposites do not attract when it comes to love. According to psychology professor William Ickes, “Based on what research evidence shows, similar people are more likely to get together in the first place — and are also more likely to find satisfaction in their relationship.”

Tinder is not likely to end in marriage. If you are going the online dating route, stick to the relationship-oriented sites. You might be part of the 15% of couples who met online. Could be worth the twenty bucks a month!

Self-confidence and self-love are essential. You can’t expect someone to love you if you don’t even love yourself. You might not be perfect, but you’re certainly terrific!

In the meanwhile, enjoy your other soulmate relationships. Good friends are so very valuable and oftentimes last longer than romantic relationships do. So treat your soulmate friends well and expect the same in return.

Also, while waiting for love, consider stocking up on the chocolate. The “feel good” serotonin it releases will help get you over the “love-waiting” humps and bumps. In my hopelessly romantic, ADHD, singleton opinion, That true-love high will be well worth the wait!

Journey well.

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